How does one forgive?
Forgiveness must come from understanding. Strange thing is most questions can be answered with a simple thought--choice. Everyone is on a set path in life and when we choose a different stance or direction it is what is meant to be. We listen to ourselves and take action in hopes of feeling good about life. We can not blame others for following their own path. We are in charge of our own feelings and reactions. So when we feel hurt in repercussion of someone else's doings we must merely recognize our path and forgive the other. We are all fighting our own battles and thinking our own thoughts. When we spend time with someone we share only a small fraction of those thoughts with one another. The time and space in between visits and interactions is filled with more thoughts, untouched and unsupported. In the moments we are together, it is in our best interest to make the most of each second as to not fuel bad thoughts or end the good ones. So when a person chooses that other path and leaves you behind, you must realize that it wasn't all of a sudden, it was a long time coming. A build up of thoughts and feelings--unshared. Yet uncontrollable. A personal choice.
So how to manage these? How to be delicate with your words?
Thoughts will stack themselves and twist or distort our feelings. We must listen but know what is true in our hearts. We can not blame those who do not accept our feelings. If we feel a certain way towards someone, friends perhaps, and they see us as lovers. We can only act on what the truth is. If the other is not satisfied with what is being offered, in truth, they can choose a different path--hence why we must forgive. Words are powerful. Every syllable and silence between our verbalized thoughts is influential. Choose your words carefully. Practice this daily. Not every thought should be shared and people should be able to make their own inferences and conclusions. Yet we can help be truthful to others and upon request, only then, should we reveal what is hidden behind our eyes--the thoughts concealed. Exposing everything to everyone all the time is confusing. One minute our minds love and another they can hate or resent. We must decipher these on our own, within. Others should not be interpreting our words for themselves. They are not us. They will not understand. Remove the "I feel"s and "I think"s from everyday conversation. Share these in intimate, worthy situations with long term adversaries. We never know where people come from or how they have been trained to handle opinion, and therefore we must treat every word as a potential to create or decay. Then at the end of the road if those two paths do not cross anymore, and you both go on your way alone, you can look ahead knowing that what lies behind is exactly what it is. Truth.
Forgiveness must come from understanding. Strange thing is most questions can be answered with a simple thought--choice. Everyone is on a set path in life and when we choose a different stance or direction it is what is meant to be. We listen to ourselves and take action in hopes of feeling good about life. We can not blame others for following their own path. We are in charge of our own feelings and reactions. So when we feel hurt in repercussion of someone else's doings we must merely recognize our path and forgive the other. We are all fighting our own battles and thinking our own thoughts. When we spend time with someone we share only a small fraction of those thoughts with one another. The time and space in between visits and interactions is filled with more thoughts, untouched and unsupported. In the moments we are together, it is in our best interest to make the most of each second as to not fuel bad thoughts or end the good ones. So when a person chooses that other path and leaves you behind, you must realize that it wasn't all of a sudden, it was a long time coming. A build up of thoughts and feelings--unshared. Yet uncontrollable. A personal choice.
So how to manage these? How to be delicate with your words?
Thoughts will stack themselves and twist or distort our feelings. We must listen but know what is true in our hearts. We can not blame those who do not accept our feelings. If we feel a certain way towards someone, friends perhaps, and they see us as lovers. We can only act on what the truth is. If the other is not satisfied with what is being offered, in truth, they can choose a different path--hence why we must forgive. Words are powerful. Every syllable and silence between our verbalized thoughts is influential. Choose your words carefully. Practice this daily. Not every thought should be shared and people should be able to make their own inferences and conclusions. Yet we can help be truthful to others and upon request, only then, should we reveal what is hidden behind our eyes--the thoughts concealed. Exposing everything to everyone all the time is confusing. One minute our minds love and another they can hate or resent. We must decipher these on our own, within. Others should not be interpreting our words for themselves. They are not us. They will not understand. Remove the "I feel"s and "I think"s from everyday conversation. Share these in intimate, worthy situations with long term adversaries. We never know where people come from or how they have been trained to handle opinion, and therefore we must treat every word as a potential to create or decay. Then at the end of the road if those two paths do not cross anymore, and you both go on your way alone, you can look ahead knowing that what lies behind is exactly what it is. Truth.
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